Sometimes it’s not easy to be a family caregiver, or a home care provider as part of your job, or dealing with certain family members of the elderly patient for whom you’re providing home care. It can be enough just dealing with unruly family members that make you think it’s just not worth the effort. After all, you’re there to make sure that the elderly individual is safe, and healthy in his or her home.
You’re certainly not there to appease every family member’s whims and follies. Here are a few scenarios that could turn any exceptional caregiver into a frustrated person who might be ready to quit.
- One family decided to hire a professional caregiver for their elderly matriarch. They looked at all of their options, and chose one who had a lot of experience, and even was a registered nurse. Even though the elderly individual didn’t need medical care, they figured that would be a benefit. After the first day on the job, the family called the in home care provider and asked her what she had done during the day with their loved one, and then proceeded to tell her what she should have been doing.
- Mel started working for an elderly gentleman back in December. During the first couple of weeks, everything seemed fine. After New Year’s, the family began to stop in all the time, kept interfering with the work that she was trying to do, and then began to tell her that she didn’t need to come back on certain days. It was as though they were trying to save money, and only having her stop by when they thought that their loved one needed it, which wasn’t the agreement.
- Another family couldn’t agree on what their elderly father needed. When they hired an in home care provider, they would fire the person shortly after. Then hire another. Only to fire her a week later. This became a pattern and they went through several in home care providers, because they couldn’t agree on the same in home care provider.
Talk to enough caregivers over time, and you’ll find plenty of stories about how they had to deal with, or endure unruly family members. Sometimes there’s not much you can do, sometimes there is. In the end, it should always be about the level of care that the elderly individual receives, rather than about your desires or needs.
For more information about caregiving services in Affton MO, contact Senior Services Unlimited. We are an elder care agency providing affordable and respectful home care to couples, veterans, and the disabled. Call (314) 646-8131.